Relationship Basics

Welcome to a brand new month and week. September is going to be a wonderful one for you.

Human beings are relational beings. You were created to relate with your environment, and importantly, other humans. Surprisingly, while most individuals have learned and succeeded relating well with things they failed relating well with human beings. This is always displayed at work, class, home church and everywhere humans are present.

One major problem in relationship is misunderstanding. And chief among it causes is superiority complex.

The truth is you will always find it difficult to understand anyone you feel superior to. In any relationship where you feel you are better than the other person either intellectually, materially, financially, spiritually or in any other way, that relationship will always be plagued with problems and eventually break.

The reason is simple. It takes humility to understand someone else. Understanding is a combination of two words under+stand. For you and your relationship to stand, you must first go under. Going under is being humble. You'll have to let go of your status and achievements in order to get to know and understand the other person. This is true especially for marital relationships. And that's why it's better not to go into relationship with whoever you believe you're superior to, the relationship might not last because the resultant effect of not going under is consistent misunderstanding.

Humility is a vital virtue for any successful relationship, the absence of it is a disaster.

Do have a Super-Great Relationship

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