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Relationship Basics 2: Trust

I was opportuned to see Acrimony some months ago and I observed in the movie that one relationship basics that was flawed even before marriage was Trust. A negative seed was sown the day the guy was caught with another lady. Trust was broken, and years after marriage could not mend it; that I believe was the origin of their destruction.

Essentially, without trust, relationship is dysfunctional and problematic, full of suspicion, jealousy, fear and worries, the end result is breakdown and that without repair at times.

Basically, trust is a two party system, the person doing the trusting and the person being trusted. The person trusting is taking a risk, because there's no trust without risk especially when it comes to humans. But it is a risk worth taking . The person being trusted is bearing a responsibility to be trustworthy. Being trustworthy is having integrity, honesty, reliability and loyalty in all their full sense. 

Interestingly in relationships, trust is also a two way process. You're trusting, taking a risk and at the same time being trusted, being trustworthy. That is the basics of building trust and one major way of building trust is to Earn it. You don't demand for trust, you earn it. Even God, the Supreme being earned His trust.

Few Ways to Earn Trust

1. Discuss, know and understand what is expected of you in your relationships. This is important. 

2. Always let what you say be coherent with what you do. Have integrity. Be coherent, consistent and reliable

3. Be Open. Distrust is fueled by secrecy. Especially in marital relationships, openess is not an option. It is key in building trust. Be plain, honest and sincere.

Always remember, to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.

Have a Super-Great Week ahead.

theINSIGHT HUB

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